The standards we embody together

Tuesday began with a pity party. And to be fair—I had plenty of “justification.” I’ll spare you the laundry list.

While I would have preferred to stay in bed wallowing (or at least recovering from a poor night of sleep), my day began at 6am and was packed with commitments and conversations—with coaches, clients and others.

Living inside the gates of my pity party, I felt both part of and outside those conversations. I was showing up—but barely. As a coach, that awareness carries its own weight.

No single interaction pulled me out of my self-pity. But over the course of the day, I noticed something subtle: being around people who show up for themselves and others was quietly shifting my perspective and energy.

By afternoon, the pity party was over.

By evening, I felt grateful for the day.

The laundry list of reasons to feel sorry for myself hadn’t changed. But Jim Rohn’s wisdom, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with," had become experiential truth.

No one rescued me or gave me a pep talk. Simply being in the presence of others who share the commitment to be their best in service of others fanned the flame of my own commitment.

The Lesson of Commitment

We don’t always need to feel aligned with our mission. What is important is making a commitment so deep that even when we feel disconnected from it, it still burns at our core.

We benefit when we surround ourselves with people who show up. But choosing who we surround ourselves with isn’t just about personal gain. It’s about a commitment to creating community—being reminded of who we are and reminding others who they are when they forget.

This is why coaching matters.

As your coach, I don’t just offer strategies; I offer a standard and a presence. My role is to help you see what you are capable of being, especially on the days you can't see it yourself. Our partnership doesn't end when the call hangs up; that shared commitment stays with you, shifting your perspective long after the session is over.